A single woman who held a party with friends to pick a sperm donor is pregnant with her first child
Lola Jimenez, 33, organised the bash for her mum and best friends after deciding to go it alone with IVF treatment when her long-term relationship broke down.
She then asked them to choose what they thought was the best from an American sperm donor agency of men with blond hair and blue eyes.
She told the Mirror in an exclusive interview: “My ultimate goal in life since I was little has been to get married and have a traditional family.
“However, it has not worked out that way.
“When I broke up with the man I thought I would have children with, I was 31.
“I’d always said if I was single by the time I reached 35, I would be a solo mum and so I brought that forward as looking for someone else felt like a waste of time.”
Lola, who is a law student, said she had a complicated start to trying to access IVF.
Her GP would not help her as she was single and she did not qualify for NHS treatment, so she had to go down the private clinic route.
She had her first round of IVF in November 2020 and because she was happy to donate her eggs she was given the treatment for free.
Her first cycle was a success and she is due in September 2021, and the woman who used her donated eggs is also pregnant too.
She said: “Not only were my own dreams of becoming a mum coming true, but I had helped another woman’s dreams coming true too. I felt really proud to be able to have been able to do that.
“I used to fill my life going to the parties, nice dinners, buying fancy shoes and nice clothes that I couldn’t afford, and getting into debt but now, that is all meaningless.
“I don’t think I’ve been truly happy until I became pregnant.”
Lola says she will be honest with her child when they are old enough to understand.
She said: “Tradition is changing – it’s no longer always a mum and dad in a family. I’ve got a huge support network and lots of people who care for me.
“I feel like I’m finally getting the family I’ve been waiting for.”
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